lessons learned

Life is a one big learning experience.

Personally, I make mistakes, I get back up, and remember not to make them again. I've learned a lot in my almost 24 years here. Recently, I've had some huge lessons slap me in the face.

First of all, I will not compromise myself, ever again. I compromised my lifestyle, my wants, my desires, to move in with my then best friend. I got rid of my cats. I changed my lifestyle and I regret it. I regret every single second that I have lived with her. I won't compromise myself again. Not for a friend, not for a relationship.

Second, I will never, ever, do something that legally ties me to someone else. I.e. cosign a loan, sign a lease. Both of which have come back to bite me in the ass. Hard. I'm suffering the reprecussions of both of the things, and to say it upsetting is an understatement.

The good news is that I will soon be on my way back to my own apartment, with my beloved cats. I am very much looking forward to this. And this is good. :)


The Marriage Ref said...

Marriage legally ties you to another person. So if you won't get married or co-sign a lease, it is safe to say all future boyfriends should expect to maintain separate residences for the duration of the relationship? I'm sure there are guys who would be just fine with that.

Lifebeginsat30ty said...

That sux that moving in with a friend had to turn out that way. Yeah, compromising yourself away never works out! But don't vow off the rest of the human race for want of a good contract ;)

Leah said...

@ The Marriage Ref - I'm kind of sarcastic regarding maintaining my own place. I'm sure there will be many factors when that decision making time comes. As long as I can have my own space, I'm sure I'll be just fine!